Reclaiming Your Power

“You can’t be a victim, and a magician…”-Amber K

Within many sects of Paganism it seems there is a lot of thoughts, actions, and words that feed into a victim mentality. We blame others for our short comings. We blame being a minority for our lot in life. We blame others in our community for our own hang ups. Yet we don’t look in the mirror and see what is the biggest obstacle in owning our own power. We don’t see that at times we are our own worst enemies. I know I have been guilty of it, but improving bit by bit.

We also take away our power by apologizing for things we don’t need to. For example while at Chrysalis Moon some people were talking about how they were embarassed by how they sounded singing. The ladies running the workshop stopped the discussion there and stated that there is no reason to apologize. It is time to own their own power and their own voice.

This is a call for that. We as a community need to stand tall and take hold of our power. We need to no longer let the world around us make us victims. We need to realize the power of our own actions and words. After all isn’t that what magic is about? Isn’t it about the power of our words. The power of our thought. The power of our intent. The power of the action and follow through. If we don’t claim that power than what good is it to do ritual? What good is it to do any magic?

Our words and thoughts form our universe. We have forgotten this. Have been told that we are not able to shape the world around us. We let the noise and problems of the real world taint us. We are walkers between the worlds. We go between the magic and the mundane. We must remember this.
I understand how we all are victims of something or another. Victims of abuse. Victims of rape. Victims of class warfare. Victims of this and that. Sooner or later you need to move on. No longer letting others take your power. No longer letting others set the course you set. Set your own course. Use these lessons wisely. Just don’t let them put you in a rut. Don’t let them take away your power by letting them live in your head. By letting them live in your energy. By letting them consume your life. For then your power will be lessen.

To close out in the words of the ladies mentioned earlier at Chrysalis Moon, Lucinda Sohen and Corey Rose. “You are beautiful. You are Wonderful. Just the way you are”

In Service of the Lord and Lady,

Cadell Ea Wolfram

Making New Year’s Resolutions Work

Happy New Year 2015. 3d


The Julian calendar New Year is upon us!  A lot of Americans are planning out their resolutions, but how many of us really stick with them?  Not very many!  In fact, only about 8% of the people that make resolutions actually stick with them to completion.  So what can you do to achieve success with your resolutions?

  1.  When making resolutions, make them very specific yet attainable.  Saying “I’m going to lose weight” is a weak resolution, while saying “I’m going to exercise 1 hour a day, 5 days a week, increase my water intake to 10 glasses a day, and eat 4 vegetarian meals a week” is a much stronger goal.
  2. Find a resolution buddy.  Even if your resolutions aren’t the same, being accountable to someone else keeps us moving towards are goals.  Sit down once a week, maybe over a cup of coffee or tea, and talk about your progress for the week.
  3. Don’t make too many resolutions.  Many people fail because they have far too many resolutions to keep track of and make changes for in their lives.  Choose one or two areas of your life you want to improve.
  4. Instead of making “I’m going to give up X” resolutions, turn it around to an action resolution.  Replace “I’m going to give up smoking” with “Every time I want to smoke, I’m going to take a 5 minute walk.”  Make it achievable and a good alternative to the behavior you want to change.
  5. Don’t get down on yourself when you screw up.  We all screw up when we are making changes to our lives.  Habits are hard to break sometimes.  Explore why you went back to the old behavior.  Was it where you were or who you were with?  Make changes so you don’t sabotage yourself again.

Resolutions are good things to have.  They help you change directions in your life when you need to, replacing bad habits with good ones.  Just remember to make them attainable and you’ll be well on your way to achieving your goals!